The Law Of Attraction is bandied about these days like wild fire. Celebrities, CEOS, coaches, gurus.. you name it, THEY LOVE IT!
So, WTAF is the Law of Attraction? And how does it really work?
Simply put the Law of Attraction is the universal law that states that every person has the ability to attract things into their lives through their own thoughts and intentions.
If someone is thinking and believing negative things all the time, they will attract negative things into their experience. If someone is thinking and believing positivity things all the time, they will attract that into their experience. In theory, ( and how most people speak about it) people can use the Law of Attraction to attract situation, experiences and even, material objet into their life.
(Before we move ahead, I will be referring to the Law of Attraction from here on out as LOA, to streamline this a bit, for me and you.)
A great deal about what is said about the LOA is only HALF the story!
Attraction is ONE OF TWO forces contained in magnetism. The other is REPULSION. Magnetism does not operate without out both poles. In other words, if you accept that you ate currently attracting elements (both good and bad) into your life, then you must accept you are repelling elements (both good and bad) as well, simultaneously. In fact, you are probably repelling a lot more than you are attracting! Your entire life experience, everything you have attracted to you, is very small in comparison to all the possibilities that are being repelled. Which isn’t necessarily a bad thing. There are good reasons to repel more than we attract. One reason, of course, is that if we attracted ALL THE THINGS, it would be quite overwhelming!
I had three simultaneous really wonderful job offers once, and it was absolute agony trying to decipher which one was the right choice! What if that was ten offers? Twenty?
Head. Officially. Done. In.
Of course, changing or mindset, being more positive has a profound effect on our confidence, however it also has a profound effect on our physicality. Our tone, stature, body language and even how widely and genuinely we smile, is impacted, which of course is going to also hugely impact out engagement with other people and things!
But the Law of Attraction is SO MUCH MORE than simply sitting around thinking positively about how everything is possible and chanting ‘Manifest! Manifest! Manifest!!’
It’s is and needs to be so much more than repetitively thinking, saying and setting our intention, with ideas and statements like, “I will have lots of money” or “I will have all the love”.
Affirmations will not do the trick alone!
Darling %FIRSTNAME%, please DO read on, as these next TWO crucial bits are what either make the Law of Attraction actually work or not work!
For LOA to be functional, there must be CLARITY.
We must know exactly what we want and need in which to to attract it. The LOA requires us to use acute visualizations and descriptors for our thoughts and mindset of what we want to have, be and do, in order to consistently call it out to the universe, and attract it.
If I walk down the street, yelling JOB JOB, I NEED A JOB. ANY OL’ JOB. I WANT A JOB!
I may actually attract some job offers. Do I want to work in the mobile phone store? Or the flower shop? NO? Oh, well maybe we should be saying.. JOB! JOB!, I want a digital marketing job with a fortune 500 in San Francisco, JOB!
Similarly, it is incredibly helpful to boost our positive thinking with “I am ready for love” or 'I am lovable” however, that’s not using the LOA.
If you walk down the street chanting 'LOVE, LOVE SEND ME THE LOVE, ALLLLL THE LOVE. ' The Universe may very well respond… with a puppy! Which, I mean PUPPY (!!!OMG!!!) HOWEVER, I bet you meant something, a bit different. We don’t want just ANYONE who wants to love us… someone with a pulse, a plausible sex addiction and £/$200K in debt, though crazy in love with you they may be, is not the look you’re going for!
BE CAREFUL WITH WHAT YOU WISH FOR. TAKE GREAT CARE…
Take great care and time, and energy, heck even some money AND get crystal clear on what exactly want to use the LOA for... visualize, journal, speak with people who love you about it, take a long hard look at your past, get a coach, see a therapist...do whatever it takes, so you can craft a clear picture and concept around love, your future soul mate & partnership.
Last, MAGNIFICENT, life changing part of the LOA?
Alright, in order to get to that I NEED to say this next thing...
One of the largest proponents for LOA, is THE SECRET.
Straight up, I'm NOT A FAN of The Secret. Lemme tell ya why!
The Secret, in a nutshell, asks us to visualize and act as if our future intent is already our present.
Back on to that street… chanting I AM A LOTTERY WINNER, I AM A LOTTERY WINNER, I AM A…
Hold up. Have you even bought a lottery ticket? Oh, no? Um….
Now, how about “I AM MARRIED. I HAVE A FAMILY. I AM MARRIED. I HAVE A FAMILY!”
Oh boy. Who's looking all crazy pants on the street now?
What’s really interesting, is many of the original Secreters (is that a thing?) who traveled the world speaking about and teaching this, are now reporting back something really important. They say, if they could do it, write that book, all over again… they would add one TREMENDOUS things that is currently missing. ACTION!
Here’s is the deal. For the LOA to work, YOU MUST BE DOING! You must take actions, risk, time (oh yeah, no overnight sensations) and even MONEY, to attract the things you want.
Its gonna take some WERRRRK, girl. Hard, worthy work!
I can and do give the women I coach all the heart mending, mind blowing, world changing tools & techniques in the world, however if they don’t TAKE ACTION… by embracing them, trying them AND take the show on the road… ZERO RESULTS! WOMP WOMP.
However, when THEY 'DO', take those brave actions, step out on some faith and take all the magic, out on the road... WOWZA!
Being open minded to new ideas, to new possibilities plays and taking on a more positive mindset, is step 1 of LOA.
Being honest, and I mean dig deep, SHAME FREE, honest about what and who you are looking for in a relationship and partner to create that crystal clear visualization is step 2 of LOA.
And being WILLING, to do the work, to take some risks, to take action on those new ideas, new adventures. To push yourself way beyond where you have been, is the final CRUCIAL step of LOA.
If you want something new & different, then you are going to have to DO something new & different!