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My darling fierce single ladies,
Oh my, here it comes. Do you see it? It’s Valentine’s Day… and it’s here to puke heart shaped everything, ALL OVER YOU AGAIN!
And I know, that you know, that I know, that YOU KNOW... Valentine’s Day is an uber capitalist, made up holiday designed to monetize love and yet… YOU STILL FEEL IT! Right there, like punch to your very single heart!
It’s a jungle out there today in modern love and dating; swipe after soul crushing swipe is getting you know where closer to finding that extraordinary partner to share your already amazing life with, or heck even go on a second date!
Just when you’ve bravely survived the holiday season and New Year’s.
Just when you start to grasp onto some of those ‘New Year, New You’ resolutions with some manner of tightness…
Lord, help us all, is that FEBRUARY 14 upon us, already?!?!
Babes, I got you. As your personal feminist LOVE COACH allow me to offer up some incredibly tried and true options, that my clients absolutely love when the dreaded Valentines Day comes knocking in its pink sparkly onsie, that will keep all the angst and despair at bay! I mean, hey now, at least there’s loads of chocolate on sale come Feb 15th HOWEVER, let’s find more than discounted chocolate covered yumminess as consolation prize, shall we? Actually, F@CK THAT, Let’s not just survive V Day, LET’S THRIVE!
I have put together a neat little list of ideas for you to actually look forward to February 14th AND I’ve even combed through all the muck, mire and heart covered BS of events on offer in London, for some truly unforgettable SINGELTON Valentines Night out!
Not in London? Use this list as inspiration, as you let your fingers do the walking all over that blank google box, cause a lot of the ideas are not tied to location and events just like the ones I mention are happening in a city near you, too!
(p.s. I’ve also included a little of heart shaped Valentine Gift from moi’ to you, at the end of this article. That’s right, I’m sending you all the love, in the form of some real time tools to help you find and attract the partner you really want, and deserve!)
Get your Wonder Woman boots out of the closet, dearest one… WE’RE ABOUT TO SUPER POWER OUR WAY THROUGH V DAY, SingleAF!
V DAY THRIVE OPTION 1;
Get all GALENTINES DAY on it's ass!
Get together with the current loves of your life, your other fab single GF’s, and celebrate each other! Yup. There is more than just either being in a relationship OR avoiding Feb 14th like it’s a plague. In fact, there is a whole diaspora of amazingness on the spectrum between those two traditional V Day options.
Here are some #squadgoals AKA Galentines Day ideas to inspire you;
MOVIE NIGHT; Take in a movie on Feb 14th with your squad!
Winchester; Why yes, I will indeed coven up with my ladies and join Dame Helen Mirren for a night of frightful movie going! That’s right, no weepy rom-com, which frankly is part of the messaging that is killing modern love and dating anyways, and let’s go right to some good ol’ horror.
50 Shades FREED - I mean come on, it’s the ultimate chick flick anyways, so why not get your entourage up and out, and drooling a bit over Cristian Gray??
Host A Dating Horror Story Awards Night
Have a pot luck dinner party with ALL your single friends, girls, boys and beyond the binary, where each one has to tell TWO of their own dating horror stories. The Winner with the most cringeworthy story gets a plastic bedazzled crown and hailed as the Ultimate Date Fail Queen/King!
Get em' up and out!
Check out one of the many Anti-Valentine’s parties happening in your area. I’ve curated my top picks happening in London, just for you!
- The empowered women of BUMBLE is hosting an Anti- Valentines event @ one of my fav spots for a bit of fun, BOUNCE! Get your ping pong skills set to ninja! MORE DETAILS ON THIS EVENT HERE
2. Celebrate Galentines Day by letting your real soul sister, QUEEN BEY, be your guide for some late night single shenanigans! The Yonce 'Valentines Day' Experiecne @ XOYO on Wed 1r4th of Februart will be playing Beyonce tunes from 10pm -3am, NON STOP! All my singles ladies, UNITE
DETAILS ON EVENT HERE
Or push yourself way outside your postal code… Did somebody say ROAD TRIP??
Hit up skyscanner or whatever your preferred flight app is and play a game of Flight Yahtzee! Select up to £40 for return flight, and spin the wheel of chance. Then randomly choose a city break based solely on the flights in that price range. Rock up as a truly empowered INDEPENDENT LADY solo or grab a bestie and wander a new city together.
V DAY THRIVE OPTION 2;
THE REAL QUESTION...
Can you FIND LOVE on Valentines Day?!?!
If you’re game to find out… Here are some really interesting singles events happening on Valentines Day, for the SingleAF out there in the wilds of modern love & dating!
1. FUCK TINDER
A speed dating comedy show!
After two completely sold out runs in Australia, as well as sold out shows in Singapore & Edinburgh, f**k Tinder is returning to London.Designed to get single people together to have a good night out, chat to interesting people and do a lot of laughing. FYI Tickets go fast to these events, cause they’re just that good! MORE DETAILS FOR EVENT HERE
2. BAES R US
The folks over at BAES R US, have Vday Speed dating nights spanning the Valentine Day period for whatever your sexual preference. Baes R Us is a fun and fast alternative to the tyranny of Tinder nightmares offering a modern twist on romance. Meet like-minded young creatives offline in a relaxed & cozy setting; the smoothest selections of music all evening, let loose ice-breakers + free cocktail on entry. (14/02 is Gay, 15/02 is Lesbian, 16/02 is Str8 night) MORE EVENT DETAILS HERE
3. GET AN EXPERT IN!
Join ME for a FREE Online Masterclass on Sunday the 18th of February @ 8pm UK (3pm EST / 12 noon PST) as I dish out some of my absolute top tips to starting BOSSING Online Dating! I will show you how to stop the confidence killing swipefest that is online dating in its tracks and start getting out on real dates with the right people for you, FAST! I
LEARN MORE AND CLAIM YOUR SPOT HERE
My darlings, it’s time, to push way past your old mode of coping, by simply trudging through Valentines Day like February 14th is just another day, and you are all out of f@cks to give.
If we want something different, we are going to have to do something different, to get there!
Spread your strong, independent woman wings, and FLY!
(*Please note; I am NOT, in any way, associated with the above events or event curators, nor financially benefited by your attendance in any way. Just being your opinionated, benevolently pushy (ahem, American) LOVE COACH, filtering though all that’s out there to present you with some of the best options on offer)