“Empowered women, empower women”
It’s my personal battle cry, in life.
AND, the time worn advice, of having a wing woman, a trusted fab girlfriend to hit the town with, still works.
However, it can be really easy to get it wrong. And a night out with the girls can become the very last environment to meet someone new, let alone with the potential to become that elusive love of our lives.
Here are a few tips to negotiating the Sex In The Cityesque coup, of having the perfect wingwoman.
Wait a minute… How about we actually use those timeless fabulous ladies of Sex In The City to break this one down!?! Oooooh, yes please!
Four women, living in one of the greatest cities of the world, (who of course, cause this is make believe TV land could afford great apartments and a killer shoe collection well beyond their means, but I digress) who navigated all the ups and downs possible in their searches for love.
What made them a killer team? Each one was uniquely ‘killing it’ in their own right, career wise and personality wise.
From uninhibited Samantha, who seized every day (and every sexual encounter) like it was her last…
To Charlotte, the girl next door who never ever stopped believing in the fairytale..
To Miranda the smart, cynical realist kicking ass in her career and unwilling to settle in love..
To our beloved Carrie, who couldn’t make heads nor tales of dating but wasn’t afraid to admit it every week in her column.
These women, took on the meanest, leanest concrete jungle of love together, and won!
They also, never stopped being incredibly real with each other, which always makes for the best kind of friend to have.
But which one makes the best wing woman for you?
Witty, take no shit, Miranda. If you’re acting a fool, Miranda will tell you, loud and clear. We love AND need that. However, Miranda’s don’t always make the best wing women for a night on the town where finding love is the on the menu. Miranda came to spend some really precious time from her busy demanding career to be with her girls. She will not appreciate you spending half the night talking to that cutie who is whispering all the right ‘smash the patriarchy’ sweet things in your ear. Miranda doesn’t necessarily live her life by the ‘see what happens, go with the flow’ rules.
Miranda’s CAN make a great wing Woman, however, she needs to know the deal up front, crystal clear. Don’t tell her it’s a girls night out to spend quality time… tell her, you need her to go with you to this networking ‘do’ where some like-minded potential partners hang out, cause you want to meet new people and are feeling a bit too nervous to go it alone. If she knows the score, she will be epic support. Bait and switch her with a ‘girls night out’, and she will NOT be having it, and her energy will rain all over your parade that night
Sexy, swing from the rafters, fun Samantha. She appears to be the perfect, high energy, ‘let’s do this’ wingWOman… however, Samantha brings her own special brand of crazy to a night out. Samantha’s have the charisma milkshake to bring all the people to the yard AND she is down for whatever, wherever, which is a huge plus in going out on the town. Samantha’s also can get lost in their own wants and needs, she is a bit of a magpie for all the shiny bits.
If you want a solid night of sisterly support, Samantha has the potential to bail on you in the first five minutes when something sparkly catch’s her eye. She can interrupt a really great convo you might be having with someone, asking to head out to the next party. Samantha’s can overtake the conversation with her own heady radiance and if she finds something or someone she likes POOF, she’s gone.
Samantha just needs a firm reminder of the ground rules too and to be carefully selected for the event, itself. She operates best in the wilder party atmosphere OR something more regimented but quirky that requires her special inhibition to boost your own, like tango classes!
Sweet, always there for us, glitter eyed Charlotte. Feeling like giving up on love? Been ghosted for the one thousand and eight time? Call Charlotte. She’ll lift you up to the sky with her never-ending positivity and belief in love. We all need a Charlotte in our life.
Need a partner in crime for a gallery opening? A business minded networking event? A yoga retreat? Out and about, and the negative gremlins are saying, ‘don’t even bother to go over there and talk to him’? Charlotte! Charlotte! Charlotte!
Want to hit a dance all night party? A burlesque show? An alternative underground scene event? Um, nope. NOT Charlotte! She will spend most the night, dying to leave and bringing you down a bit with her.
The best thing about Charlotte's, is they're always in wingWOMan mode, tripping the love fantastic!
Funny, sassy, fashionista Carrie! You need the real talk? Carrie’s got it, too!
You need someone with a flexible enough personality (and wardrobe) to transcend the warehouse party or a trendy restaurant opening? Carrie!
You want to try a personal development seminar, a co-ed bootcamp in the park or suited and booted business function? Carrie? Not so much.
But here's the deal. Carrie, knows exactly what a jungle it is out there and Carrie knows exactly why this is so important to you. She’s the friend who reminds you most of you. She get’s you like no one else. Also, Carrie is that friend that provides the relationship savvy to not just keeps the girl crew together but she actually has real experience in and out of relationships.
Carrie has the track record of success and some pretty spectacular failures in love, which is GOLD DUST!