For this weeks love letter to those fighting the good fight to keep their love thriving, I wanted to talk about how to introduce the powerful tool that is The Five Love Languages to ensure that this year, that extra special message of love, really resonates.
Your Singleton's Valentines Survival Guide
Welcome To Your Singleton Valentines Day Survival Guide or...dare I say it THRIVAL guide?!?
Heck Yes!
Yup, just a couple of weeks, till one of the most dreaded holidays of the singles calendar is upon us! Yikes!
And even though we know that V Day is a ridiculously commercialized money grabbing holiday, we still feel it. It’s one of those annual days in the year where being without a partner, seems rubbed in our faces, in a special kinda hell way.
As tempting as it is, to dissociate from this whole day via a good head in the sand, there are sooooo many better options!
A large part of my coaching work with my single clients, focuses them in on living their best SINGLE life. When we are happy, healthy and content on our own, we attract other happy healthy and content people...however this is also about stepping in the abundant belief that one day, this single life WILL be over… so we better enjoy it while it lasts! Woot!
To that end, I gift thee this week, with the ultimate Valentines Survival Guide for those who are currently single. No longer, does the 14th of February have to live in infamy within our minds and hearts!
1. The Anti-Valentines route
Attend an Anti Valentines party with Bumble. The worldwide dating app Bumble, hosts some pretty fun Anti Valentines events so check out to see where they are doing one local to you. Similarly, other dating apps, like Match, RevL etc.. also usually host parties too. OR, just google 'Anti Valentines near me', and see what revelry stands out in the search result
2. A very Doggy Valentines
Take your sweet pupper to a doggie Valentines Day Event.
Oh hell yes, these exist. And it can be a great way for you to not only honor your beloved dog on this special day, but also get swamped with doggy kisses from all in attendance. And hey, maybe you’ll meet an owner or two, who is just your type too.
3. Dance, Dance, Dance!
Dance the night away! One of my favorites is the Yonce Anti Valentines Day night in East London. I mean, hello? Dance the night away to Beyonce?!?! Yes please!
Grab some friends and head out for a night of some serious booty shaking fun.
4. Attend A Singles Event
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Singles Events are bountiful the weekend of Valentines day. A quick browse of Designmynight . com or Timeout quickly reveals just how popular this option is on Valentines Day. Head out into the wilds to bravely meet other singles, who are looking for love on Valentines.
5. Pamper Yourself!
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Check in for a oh so necessary afternoon at the spa, book in a massage, book in a yoga or meditation class or retreat, or simply set up the ultimate pamper night at home complete with a long bath bomb soap, champagne and a face mask.
6. Do something on Your Singles Bucket List
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Do a crazy or self indulgent thing that is possible, because you ARE single!
Book a sky dive, drive a super car, go on a weekend city break, head off to the mountains for some skiing, go see the super sappy movie, or an all day rave…book in the kind of thing that you CAN do, because there is no other half to check in with, or kids to worry about!
Going on a solo adventure not an option? Calling all my Single Mum’s and Dad's! Book in a fab valentines adventure with your kids! They qualify for ‘love of your life’ status, so why not?!?!
7. Get Your PALentines on!
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Skip the GAL only and gather for ALL your single fabulous pals for a night out or in. Grab those single girlfriends, guy friends and non binary pals and head out for a nice dinner, some drinks or even better have a Palentines potluck complete with signature singleton cocktail (or mocktail) for a great night in, with some of your besties.
Hey, some of our truest soul mates in this life, are platonic lovelies, and they deserve all my love on Valentines day!
So, yeah. Greeting Valentines by closing your eyes, placing your hands firmly over your ears whilst chanting LA LA LA LA LA I CAN’T HEAR YOU!’, is NOT your only option!
I hope this Love Letter inspires your to change up your V Day routine.