I won’t sugar coat this for you, December – March is my busiest time of year, for dating coaching clients. It can be very lonely to be single this time of year, between random relatives asking if you are seeing anyone special followed by the ol’ ‘you gotta put yourself out there’ parting jab... a ball dropping on New Years and no kiss in sight and then just when you think you made it out alive, hells bells(!!) freaking Valentines day comes trouncing into town like a toddler hopped up on sugar. Cue massive eyeroll !
And I know it sounds bit crazy to tell you this, BUT the holiday season is a great time to be single…
And whilst yes, watching couples smooch under mistletoe doesn’t feel like something to celebrate, here is exactly why it can be an incredible time to be out and about dating. Read my top 3 reasons the holiday season is a great time to be single here
Top 3 Reasons the holiday season is a great time be single:
1. ‘A time to spread goodwill and cheer’ There is something magical and festive about this time of year, that puts everyone in a more social mood. We have dinners and parties to attend, shopping to do and a feeling of getting the most out of the end of the year. This means most people are more ‘up’ for going out, meeting up and have a unconscious drive to have a good time.
2. ‘Busy time of the year’ For many of you, this is a very busy time of the year Whether that be lots of evenings booked up with festivities or end of year deadlines looming. One of the best tips I give my clients using online dating is to switch out a traditional first date for a much more casual and short ‘first meet’. Setting up a 30 minute cup of coffee, glass of wine or hot chocolate by the Christmas tree in town gives us just enough time to get a much needed face to face first impression and confirm (or deny) what we saw online with in person reality. It also dials back all the pressure and build up we can sometimes place on a longer first date, which helps us to ease any anxiety. And, its way easier to propose this by saying something like… ‘weeks busy with Christmas parties but I would love to meet up! How about we meet any such and such place for a quick this and that before I have to be at FILL IN THE BLANK party?’ And hey, bonus points if who shows up, barely resembles their online pics AND has the real life personality of a wet mop, cause you are not committed to, nor trying to figure our how to get out of a typical 1-2 hour date.
3. ‘Say cheese!’ You know what else is a glorious by product of this time of year? Great profile pic update opportunities as you sashay around town, a bit more glammed up, and filled with that certain confident festive sass than usual. Before the drinks get the better of everyone, grab that co-worker at the office Christmas party and gave them take some fun new pics for your dating profile.
Wishing you all the love this holiday season and as always remember, YOU ARE THE GREATEST GIFT anyone can find under the tree! xx
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