Morning Clear Out Exercise:
Empowering YOU in the arena of LOVE!
Most of us have a noise level happening in our head every day. The swirling of things to do, people to see, places to go along with perhaps some noisy complaints, negative head chatter, and demotivating story lines, woven in. The follow exercise is a proven method to help clear out the mind, gently hit the reset button towards a more intentional way of thinking and living AND to build self esteem by transforming our daily contribution to the world around us. AND do it, in less than 5 minutes!
Step 1: THE CLEAR OUT
Grab a pen & fresh sheet of paper or journal page, lined or unlined. Also have a method of keeping time. Egg timer, phone etc.. Set the timer for 1 minute, take a deep breath, and just write. Without direction, without structure, write down absolutely anything and everything that comes to mind. Follow the thoughts, wherever they lead and keep writing. Even if you have to start by writing ‘blah blah blah’ until something percolates in your head, do it. Imagine taking your brain, giving it a shake, and emptying it out on the page.
The pen remains in hand and writing for one whole minute.
STEP 2: FLESHING OUT THE NEGATIVE BLOCKS
Reset the timer for ONE minute. And use the following writing prompt;
I can’t (or will never) find love because..."
I can't get what I want and need in my relationship because...
(This may also sound like, This won’t happen because… ) Again, WHATEVER comes to mind, WRITE IT DOWN. We are not here to analyze, all you are here to do for the next minute is document what your head it telling you.
STEP 3: LIBERATING THE MIND (optional, if there is quite a bit of negative from step 2)
Take a few moments to think of your favorite little child. This can be your own child, a niece, nephew, god child, a best friends kid, maybe it’s YOU, as a little child! Really visualize that amazing, adorable child, you love so much, standing in front of you, eyes wide, looking up to you for answers. See that child. Imagine them asking you “Why can’t I have the love I want and need?”
Now read out of to the ALL the reasons you just wrote down. As if you were explaining to that beloved child, why they won’t be able to have the love they want and need. “You’re not smart enough, pretty enough, capable enough, thin enough… its too hard, its too late, your too late, your not enough… nothing ever works out for you, you always get the short end of the stick, all men/women are horrible, You never get it right”… WHATEVER YOUR WROTE DOWN, imagine telling, that sweet child, you love so much.
Ouch. Not nice, is it? Not helpful. Certainly not motivating. Not kind, not loving, is it? So why are we telling ourselves this???
Now take that sheet of paper, with your morning dump Steps 1 & 2… and get angry with it! Burn it, tear it into little pieces, crumple it up tightly into a ball and say out loud, NOT TODAY!!!
Breathe that in. That promise. That declaration. NOT TODAY!!!!
Step 4: SETTING OUR INTENTIONS, FIRMLY & ANEW.
Grab a fresh sheet of paper, set the timer for 1 minute and use the following writing prompt.
WHO AM I GOING TO SHOW UP AS TODAY, FOR LOVE & PARTNERSHIP? WHAT KIND OFWOMAN/MAN am I going to show up as, today, FOR LOVE?
This is YOUR day, YOUR LIFE, you can decide exactly how you want to show up as!
Write for one minute, outlining all that you will bring to your day, in order to show up exactly as the woman or man you want, need and are meant to be. Keep that sheet, dearest one.
STEP 5: AND REPEAT.
I invite you to make this a regular practice. Morning, noon or night, whatever suits you.
Gently, yet firmly embrace this new 5 step, 5 minute, tool.
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